People always told me teenage girls are hard, but Dear Lord! My rebutal to those who say "I told you so" is, Social Media is making it much much harder! Peer pressure is so much more than a Bitch when kids post about everything they do and don't do. Then they'll post about others' doing or not doing things. To keep up in this world is hard enough as a grown ass woman, but for a teen, OUCH! My daughter, like many, have fallen prey to it. She was bullied at school and convinced to be someone she's not. The culprits would not just say it behind her back, but post about it and text her over and over again.
She was once this strong, outgoing, talented, idiot savant. She lost that for a few years and every time I see a glimpse of her coming back, she's gone again. Once the straight A popular girl has been an in-patient and out patient in a psychiatric hospital, quit the game of soccer in which she LOVED so much, been to alternative school for smoking pot in the bathroom, sliced her arm up and down, moved to a different school only to be homeschooled now. After fighting for her and being there for her every second of the day, She's finally an average 16 year old girl. She's being homeschooled, HOW HARD IS IT TO COMPLETE YOUR WORK! She's doing online driver's ed, seriously, WHY CAN'T SHE FINISH, she might get to drive once she does! I have found more vapes than I can count in her room including a couple weed vapes (where is she getting these!). I'm proud of myself for not only have I still not yelled at her at the top of my lungs, I haven't hit her yet either, haha. Just as a disclaimer, I would never ever hit my child, EVER. She doesn't care if her phone is taken away, if I've locked up her wallet (and keys to her truck that she snuck out), that she can't go outside, or has to sit at her computer to do work with me staring at her. She use to have the opportunity to use my MacBook anywhere around the house, not no more!
I've turned a new leaf, tough love with no ifs ands or buts. She is to be at her computer from 9-4pm everyday, no more MacBook, with only a lunch break and ONE SHIT BREAK! Her phone is only available for school work. I'm proud of myself, anytime she asks for something, I SAY NO! This means I'm grounded too, but if it means she gets to go back to public school as a Jr and not a repeating Sophomore, I'm good. I've already told her that if she doesn't pass she's going to the alternative school. Since January, she's only completed 1/2 of her first semester. She has until the end of June to finish her 1st and 2nd semester. Lord help us.
I was once a teen and I did some really stupid shit, but failing out of school was NEVER an option. One of my favorite conversations with her she said, "Mom! I'm scared of you!" FINALLY! She finally fears my wrath!
